Created from pain, built for freedom, and grounded in love.
Support, community, and healing for anyone recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Welcome to fierce and free healing
Welcome — I’m Karen
For most of my life, I thought healing meant trying harder to belong to a family that never truly made room for me. I grew up in a narcissistic family system where love was conditional, loyalty was demanded, and silence was the price of admission. I spent years trying to earn the very thing every child deserves freely: a sense of belonging.
The moment I learned I had been disinherited — written out of my mother’s will without a word — it felt like watching her place a lifetime of love, legacy, and “family” on the table… and cut me out of it. Not because of money, but because of something far more devastating: rejection. I was handed no slice, no crumbs, not even an explanation.
Being disinherited wasn’t just a legal decision. It was a message.
You don’t belong.
You don’t matter.
You’re not one of us.
And for anyone who’s lived under the shadow of a narcissistic parent, you know exactly how deep that cuts. It confirms every fear you’ve carried since childhood — that love was earned, that your worth was tied to obedience, and that stepping out of the role they assigned meant losing your place at the table.
But here’s what I’ve learned since that moment:
Being cut out wasn’t a reflection of my worth. It was a reflection of her brokenness — her need for control, image, and power. And while it shattered something in me, it also freed something in me.
When my mother took away my seat at the table, and my siblings refused to offer one, it pushed me to build my own table — one made of truth, compassion, and connection. A place where people are seen, heard, believed, and safe. A place where the cycle ends, where healing begins, and where you never have to fight for a seat.
That’s why Fierce & Free Healing exists. Because I know what it is to have your story dismissed, your pain minimized, and your identity erased — and I refuse to let anyone else walk that road alone.
If you’re here, please know this:
You belong. Your story matters. Your healing is sacred. And you never have to shrink to fit into someone else's version of who you’re “supposed” to be.
Welcome to a space built for people reclaiming themselves after narcissistic abuse. A space created from pain, built for freedom, and grounded in love.
Please, join our community, you don't have to do this alone.
Healing in community:what fierce and free offers
Weekly Zoom Meetings
The Resilient Hearts Program
The Resilient Hearts Program
A soft landing place every week — a room where you can exhale, be understood, and feel genuinely supported. These meetings are judgment-free, pressure-free, and filled with people who know the pain and confusion of narcissistic abuse. You don’t have to heal alone anymore.
The Resilient Hearts Program
The Resilient Hearts Program
The Resilient Hearts Program
My 8-week healing journey designed to help you rediscover your voice, rebuild your self-worth, and understand the patterns that kept you stuck. Together, we gently untangle the damage and create real, grounded steps toward peace, power, and emotional freedom.
RESILIENT HEARTS PROGRAM
Downloadable Self-Help Tools
The Resilient Hearts Program
Downloadable Self-Help Tools
Guides, journaling prompts, grounding practices, and mini-teachings you can use anytime your heart needs support. These tools are simple, calming, and created to help you regulate your nervous system, make sense of your experiences, and feel more like you again.
Supportive, Newsletters
Supportive, Newsletters
Downloadable Self-Help Tools
Weekly heart driven emails filled with clarity, compassion, and encouragement — written to help you move from surviving to truly thriving. You’ll receive gentle insights, coping tools, and reminders that you are strong, deserving, and not alone on this path so you can keep your healing journey going.
Narcissist Clarity Quiz
Supportive, Newsletters
Narcissist Clarity Quiz
A gentle but powerful starting point for your healing. This quiz helps you understand whether you’re dealing with a narcissist, recognize the patterns affecting you, and learn what your next steps might be. For many people, this is where the true healing begins — with clarity, validation, and finally knowing it wasn’t your fault.
Webinars
Supportive, Newsletters
Narcissist Clarity Quiz
Coming spring 2026
Deep-dive teaching sessions focused on topics survivors need most — boundaries, trauma responses, releasing the narcissist, rebuilding your identity, and more. These seminars give you clarity, tools, and real-time support so you can shift from confusion to confidence.
The Secret to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: You Don’t Do It Alone
Walking into a healing space for the first time can feel terrifying. I still remember stepping into my first AA meeting — the fear, the discomfort, the voice insisting, “You don’t belong here.”
But when someone shared their story, everything softened. I wasn’t alone anymore. I was understood. And that moment is what I want for you.
Healing from narcissistic abuse requires community because the trauma itself was relational. It taught you to doubt your reality, silence your needs, and carry everything alone.
Community reverses that.
When you sit with people healing from what you lived through, something inside you exhales. Shame loosens, clarity returns, and your nervous system finally feels safe enough to rest.
That’s the heart of Fierce & Free Healing — a place where your story isn’t “too much,” your pain isn’t minimized, and your healing isn’t something you have to figure out alone.
And if you’re just beginning, or even if you’re deep into your healing, I want you to have support that travels with you.
It's not just a newsletter, it is community.
Its not just a newsletter
Our newsletter is where I share tools you can use right away — grounded nervous-system practices, journaling prompts, insights about trauma recovery, stories from the community, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone on this path.It’s not spam.It’s connection.It’s community in your inbox.If you’re feeling the pull to stay close, to learn, to grow, and to be held through the waves of this journey — sign up for the newsletter. It’s the easiest first step, and it keeps you connected to everything we’re building here.
How We Find Our Way Back to Ourselves
Healing after narcissistic abuse takes more than information — it takes safety, understanding, and people who truly see you. You can’t heal wounds that were created in isolation by continuing to be isolated. We heal in connection.
At Fierce & Free Healing, everything we offer is designed to help your nervous system settle, rebuild your sense of self, and reconnect you with the parts of you that were silenced or dismissed. Whether you’re joining a Zoom meeting, taking the quiz, journaling, or stepping into Resilient Hearts, you’ll be surrounded by people who get it — no explaining, no judgment.
You don’t need to be perfect or know your next step. You just have to show up as you are.
And in this community, you’ll finally feel the support, validation, and belonging that make real healing possible.
About Narcissism
Narcissism
No matter who the narcissist was or is in your life — a parent, sibling, partner, child, in-law, or friend — the wounds we carry often look the same. Narcissistic abuse follows consistent patterns: the gaslighting, the blame-shifting, the unpredictability, the way your needs are dismissed, and that constant feeling of walking on eggshells.
The roles may be different, but the impact on your heart, your nervous system, and your sense of self is painfully similar. You learn to question your own reality, shrink yourself to stay safe, and carry burdens that were never yours.
And healing begins with understanding this: these wounds were never created because something was wrong with you — they were created because narcissists behave the same, no matter the relationship.
You are not alone. Truly.
And you’re in the right place.
This is a community built for people just like you — people who are trying to make sense of what happened, reclaim their voice, and rebuild their lives with clarity and support. We walk this healing path together. You’ll be believed here, understood here, and supported here every step of the way.
We are here for you.
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The lasting impact of narcissistic abuse.
Narcissistic Parent
Narcissistic Partner
Narcissistic Partner
Growing up with a narcissistic parent leaves wounds far deeper than most people ever see. A child learns early that love is conditional, their needs are “too much,” and they must shape-shift to keep the peace. Over time, this erodes their self-worth and teaches them to doubt their own reality. Many grow into people-pleasers or caretakers because those roles once kept them safe. The wound isn’t just emotional—it’s identity-deep. But nothing was ever wrong with the child; they adapted to an environment that didn’t protect or see them. Healing begins the moment they realize the wound was never their fault.
Narcissistic Partner
Narcissistic Partner
Narcissistic Partner
Being in a relationship with a narcissistic partner creates wounds that seep into every part of your life. You start with love, but slowly you’re pulled into confusion, self-doubt, and constant eggshell walking. Their charm can turn to criticism in a heartbeat, leaving you trying to manage their moods just to stay safe. Over time, you question your memory, apologize for things you didn’t do, and shrink yourself to avoid conflict. The relationship trains you to ignore your needs and overgive, believing that if you just loved better or tried harder, things would improve. But the wound was never about your worth. You adapted to a relationship that didn’t honor or see you—and healing begins the moment you realize the harm was never your fault.
Narcissistic child
Narcissistic Partner
Narcissistic in law
Having a narcissistic child creates a uniquely painful wound. Instead of the connection and honesty you hope for, you’re met with manipulation, blame, and emotional unpredictability. You may find yourself walking on eggshells around your own child, doubting your instincts and carrying guilt that was never yours. They can twist your words, rewrite history, or withdraw completely, leaving you feeling powerless and heartbroken. The wound comes from loving someone who uses that love against you. But their behavior is not a reflection of your worth. You adapted to survive a relationship that didn’t protect you—and healing begins when you reclaim your truth and remember you deserve respect and emotional safety, even from your own child.
Narcissistic in law
Narcissistic Sibling
Narcissistic in law
Having a narcissistic in-law creates wounds that are subtle but deeply destabilizing. They may seem charming at first, but their criticism, boundary-pushing, and undermining slowly erode your sense of peace. You can end up constantly defending yourself as they twist conversations, rewrite events, or insert themselves where they don’t belong. Their need for control can strain your relationships and make you doubt your own instincts. The wound comes from being forced to tolerate disrespect in a family you hoped would feel supportive. But their behavior reflects who they are — not your worth. Healing begins when you honor your reality, protect your peace, and remember you deserve emotional safety no matter someone’s title.
Narcissistic Friend
Narcissistic Sibling
Narcissistic Sibling
Having a narcissistic friend creates a wound that catches you off guard because friendship is supposed to feel safe and mutual. Instead, their needs always come first while yours are minimized or ignored. They may take without giving, expect loyalty they don’t return, or turn competitive when you succeed. Over time, you shrink yourself to keep the peace and wonder why the friendship feels so one-sided. The real hurt comes from realizing someone you trusted never truly held space for you. But their lack of reciprocity isn’t about your worth. Healing begins when you honor what you gave, acknowledge how little came back, and choose connections that meet your heart instead of draining it.
Narcissistic Sibling
Narcissistic Sibling
Narcissistic Sibling
Having a narcissistic sibling creates a deep wound because it starts in the very place where you were supposed to feel safe. Instead of support, you’re met with competition, blame, and manipulation that leave you defending yourself or chasing their approval. They may rewrite history, turn family against you, or cast themselves as the victim while assigning you roles you never chose. Over time, you brace for their moods, avoid conflict, and suppress your needs just to keep the peace. The pain comes from wanting a loving relationship and getting envy or control instead. But their behavior reflects their wounds, not your worth. Healing begins when you reclaim your truth, release the roles they placed on you, and protect your peace with boundaries that honor your heart.
Different Narcissists, Same Wounds—And a Path to Healing
No matter who the narcissist was or is in your life — a parent, sibling, partner, child, in-law, or friend — the wounds we carry often look the same. Narcissistic abuse follows consistent patterns: the gaslighting, the blame-shifting, the unpredictability, the way your needs are dismissed, and the constant feeling of walking on eggshells. The roles may be different, but the impact on your heart, your nervous system, and your sense of self is painfully similar. You learn to question your reality, shrink yourself to stay safe, and carry burdens that were never yours. And healing begins with understanding that these wounds were not created because something was wrong with you — they were created because the narcissist’s behavior is the same, no matter the relationship. You are not alone, and there is a way forward.anything related to your company
Grounding Exercises to Reconnect, Calm, and Regulate
The Butterfly Hug
Cross your arms and gently tap your upper arms or shoulders, alternating left and right.
This bilateral movement soothes the fight-or-flight response and signals safety to your body.
Ground Through Your Feet
Stand or sit with both feet flat on the floor. Press down gently and feel the weight of your body supported by the earth.
Say silently: “I’m here. I’m safe. I’m supported.”
Extended Exhale Breathing
Inhale through your nose for 4 counts, exhale through your mouth for 8.
A longer exhale activates your parasympathetic (calming) system and helps release tension.
Temperature Change Reset
Hold a cool object, splash cold water on your face, or step outside into fresh air.
Temperature shifts help bring your body out of a stress loop and back into the moment.
Name What’s True Right Now
Say out loud: “In this moment, I’m safe. I’m breathing. I’m okay.”
Affirming the present truth reminds your body it’s no longer in danger.
Name What’s True Right Now
Say out loud: “In this moment, I’m safe. I’m breathing. I’m okay.”
Affirming the present truth reminds your body it’s no longer in danger.
Grounding in community
Grounding in community is one of the most powerful ways to heal after narcissistic abuse. Three things make it especially transformative:
1. Your nervous system feels less alone.
Being around people who understand helps your body settle in ways it can’t do by itself.
2. You feel validated instead of confused.
Hearing others reflect experiences like yours quiets the self-blame and reconnects you to your truth.
3. You build strength through shared healing.
There’s comfort and courage in knowing you don’t have to walk this journey by yourself.
This is why I host our weekly Zoom healing gatherings every Wednesday at 12:00 PM Eastern — a gentle, supportive space to breathe, connect, and ground with others who truly get it.
You’re always welcome to join us.
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